Seeking Perfection?

The strive for perfection is also often the bane when it comes to singles looking for a mate.

Is he tall enough? Is she pretty enough?

Does he earn enough? Is she slim enough?

Is he really nice? Or is he faking it? Or why is he SO nice? There must be something wrong with him.

And when we finally meet the right person, we realise that, they are not perfect after all. Because we have come to realise that it is not possible to find someone who's perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and more often than not, we have many flaws.

It is better to build a relationship with someone who is 'not so perfect' but whom you love, rather than spend your whole life trying to look for that perfect someone, only to be sorely disappointed to know that he or she does not exist. 

And so, what is the definition of perfect?

After being in a relationship with the significant other for 11 years, and being married for 6 years… I have realised that… life's perfect when you are contented…. and happy. It's all in your state of mind.

When you are feeling fulfilled and blissful, everything is perfect…

You can't search out perfection. Perfection will come searching for you! When you have finally put away your check list syndrome, get rid of your emotional baggage, lower your defences, open up your heart… and go into the relationship with an open mind, and a positive attitude.

All the best in your path to meeting perfection…!

----------By Violet Lim, Lunch-Actually.

认识violet lim，是在某天如常的开车上班边听电台节目时。那整个星期的节目内容为“剩男剩女”。而最后一天的节目正好邀请了她上节目。这整个星期的节目确实我很留意，因为我渐渐发觉，我正步入这个组群了。没什么不好意思的，在深入了认识她后，我更接纳自己，接受眼前的一切。重要的是，我在她的文字里知道了，我接下来应该怎样做得更好，下一步怎么开始，也有信心的知道应该坚持着什么等的。

曾经懈垢过的一个男生..恩，用曾经，因为我知道他不会再回来做朋友的了，still friend/we are friend等的话是打出来的客套话。这是我必须接受的，当然如果哪天这个朋友回来了，我也希望重新认识他。他常说，他就是desperate.因为他知道如果不积极，不下定决定找伴，永远他将会单身。其实在认识他时，我时常在思考这个信念，甚至觉得我也应该向他学习秉持这个信念。Violet Lim在她其中一篇文章里也有highlight这一点。

hmm..其他的下次在写吧. Again, i believe God would never take something away from me without the intention of replacing it with something much better.